My Client's Stories
I had the fortune of being introduced to Kathleen just before the birth of my second child. Having suffered from PND after the birth of my little girl, it then reared its head again weeks before the arrival of my son. It was a difficult time, and although thankfully I was quick to pick up on the signs second time round, Kathleen came to the rescue with some incredibly helpful techniques to get me back on track. It was easily the most engaging and helpful 2 hour phone call I’ve ever had. I couldn’t recommend Kathleen more highly, and I have continued to recommend her to people who feel in need of help to get them out of dark places, or just those that could do with a very good ear to listen to their worries.
Rosie Trotter, June 2016
I’ve always thought that when people talk about their life journeys it was all a bit of a cliché, but in February 2014 I started my own personal journey with ME.
I didn’t know what hit me. I couldn’t comprehend how my body could shut down, and no matter what I did to regain my former health it simply wasn’t listening. Deep down I knew there was a way out, and I genuinely spent large amounts of money on every therapy and remedy possible hoping someone or something would help me alleviate the profoundly debilitating pain and fatigue.
I eventually realized that the only person that could help me was myself, but I needed someone to guide me on the right path. That person was and is Kathleen Kettles.
I began telephone sessions with Kathleen in January 2015. From the moment we started speaking I instantly knew she had the answers.
It’s been a rocky road, and throughout the past ten months my symptoms have at times been intense, but I’ve learnt to understand that they are there for a reason and are a reminder to listen to what’s happening in all aspects of my life, and not to panic.
Life hasn’t returned to normal. It’s different. It’s better. Normal was thinking, thinking, thinking: what happened yesterday, what was happening tomorrow and rushing around trying to keep everyone else happy and paying no attention to myself. As Head of a busy Art and Design Department, the job has become ever more stressful, and life genuinely became all work and no play.
Now I live for the moment, spend more time on what I want to do. It’s been difficult to put myself first, and it’s taken me a lot of time to shut down my head mind, but I realise this has been the basis of my illness. Today I practice being mindful, and spend a lot more time outside. It’s the first time I’ve actually really seen the leaves turn in Autumn and I live on a farm.
Sounds quite simple, but life does take over in this crazy world, and CFS/ME is a horrific wake up call.
Kathleen is profoundly intuitive. She teased out the truth when I didn’t even know it or “feel it” myself, but she had the patience to listen and guide, but equally let me work it out for myself.
She is a genuinely caring individual. She is humorous and earthy but openly sensitive and empathetic.
I can’t thank her enough.
Marjory Tait, Phone Sessions, November 2015
I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue back in 2013. I have a long, 20 year history of various mental health issues including depression and anxiety, which turned into unexplained debilitating symptoms that left me with no strength or motivation to do anything. Just walking upstairs left me feeling exhausted. The GP finally gave me a diagnosis of CFS - but told me "there was nothing more they could do for me, that I might or might not ever get better, I would have to try and learn to live with and manage my symptoms." It was a fairly miserable prospect. It was shortly after that I contacted Kathleen and I have never looked back.
After my first couple of sessions with Kathleen I was amazed by how quickly my body responded to Reverse Therapy. Within a couple of weeks I had climbed to the top of Bennachie. I got eaten alive by midges but still it felt so liberating. Like anything was possible again. We did some trauma removal work initially, that I was a little apprehensive about, having never really spoken about it to anyone before, but I trusted Kathleen, I felt safe and by the end it became a surprisingly enjoyable experience.
As soon as I met Kathleen she made me feel at ease. I felt I could speak openly and honestly to her without ever feeling judged. She is knowledgeable, encouraging, and sensitive and has a great sense of humour. No problem was ever too big or too small - she offered focussed solutions that I always felt very much a part of and were challenging at times but always manageable.
Throughout the whole process I always felt genuinely supported and Kathleen's focus was always helping me to become and learning to live symptom free. Learning about Reverse Therapy and working with Kathleen has changed my life. Not only am I very much living symptom free, I am enjoying life and appreciating everything from the small things to all the good things life has to offer. I can honestly say for the first time I am looking forward to living the rest of my life to the full.
Joanne, Aberdeen 2015
My son is highly motivated to do well and performed very well in class, small tests and in hockey training, but his teachers couldn't understand why he under performed in exams and in matches. Sports psychology made him worse and then we remembered how much Kathleen had helped my daughter defeat ME and decided to see if she could work miracles again.
Kathleen's sessions are full of fun, she's so easy to talk to and with the cards and mechanisms she gave him to help cope it's astounding how well he has done by unlocking his potential.
Sue, mother of an Aberdeen client, August 2013
If you are reading this and debating with yourself about whether you should book that first appointment with Kathleen then my advice is “Do it now!”
I had struggled with CFS for many years and had tried various strategies and techniques recommended by health professionals, but to no avail. I decided to “give Kathleen a go” when I was going through a particularly bad spell, and I’m so glad that I did! I began to feel a real difference after my second session with her, and by session eight I was ready, willing and able to go it alone. I feel so much better. I haven’t had this much energy, enthusiasm and pleasure out of life for years.
So how did this all happen? I believe that the key to my successful treatment is Kathleen herself. She is an amazing person with so many wonderful gifts and qualities. She seems to me to have an innate ability to create and sustain the all-important therapeutic relationship. Her skills and personality, coupled with some very helpful insights and strategies from Reverse Therapy, has made all the difference for me. Of course I had to play my part in this, after all, there is no magic wand in life. However, if you work at what Kathleen recommends then change IS possible. So go on, make that appointment and “give Kathleen a go”.
Ian, Forres, November 2012
My line manager suggested I see Kathleen. I was a bit hesitant at first as I’ve never done anything like that before but as soon as I met Kathleen she put me at ease and I felt I could tell her anything without being judged. She was friendly, caring and loving from the minute I walked in her door. Kathleen gave me some tips on how to focus myself in the present time instead of consuming my thoughts with sad events from the past. She gave me strategies to concentrate when I was in conversation with people, particularly my kids and gave me plenty encouragement to stay strong and keep positive. I’m ten months on now since I lost my partner and by taking help and advice from Kathleen I’m starting to feel like life will one day be okay again for me and my kids. My children tell me frequently how much better I’ve become at focusing on the positive things & living in the moment. Kathleen has been a great support to me through what truly has been the toughest time in my life.
Carol, Shetland Clinic, October 2012
My life has changed since my phone appointments with Kathleen. I have had M.E and crippling pains for 23 years and I now feel better than I have ever felt in my life. I am cleaning windows, hoovering, gardening, knitting and learning to crochet. I hope to start a computer course soon. Thank you so much!
K.D Livingston, Phone Sessions, October 2011.
I know I've not contacted you in a while but I just wanted to let you know that yesterday I completed my first ever half marathon in 1 hour 51:53 minutes.
To go from a position of being bedbound for 3 years to this was an incredible feeling and though I have been 'well' for a long time now, doing this run gave me the full validation of this and it has lifted something in me in a new way.
I would never have believed that I would ever have been able to even contemplate such a thing, prior to working with you. You did so much to help me and it felt so great to have such a physical achievement as I did yesterday! It was a wonderful feeling to achieve this and I am aiming for a full marathon next year.
To be able to believe in my body again is a wonderful gift and I hope that other people will read this on your website and come to you for help. I could never have got to the position of being able to do this without the patient and brilliant support you gave me.
Thanks again Kathleen, I will keep you updated with my athletic endeavours!
Tim Watmough, Dundee Clinic & Phone Sessions, May 2011
I am a triple threat performer - actress, singer and dancer. I was working as an entertainer for holiday parks across the UK; Entertaining children, In-House Shows, Character Skin work, Cabaret work and just having so much fun. But last year I contracted Post Viral Fatigue Syndrome when I became very ill with a bad virus, which still to this day, is unknown. I went to see 7 different doctors and none of them could figure out what was wrong with me, they all thought I was pulling a fast one. No one understood the hell I was going through except my family. It got to the point that I was sinking in such a depression, that I didn't want to go back to work anymore and quit my love for performing. My symptoms were all body muscle and joint ache, muscle ache/weakness, severe tiredness (slept all the time), loss of appetite, body weakness, anxiety, found it hard to walk, depression and at times I had a memory like a sieve (when my memory really, was top notch!). I gradually got better from the illness but once another virus hits me, I'm knocked back yet again, going back to square one.
This year I took the same again, as bad as last year. I was fed up feeling so ill and not able to the things that I do best, and that I love. My mum found out about Reverse Therapy through a friend at her local choir group, and thought it was worth a shot to see how I got on. I was dreading it at first because I had no idea what was going to be happening. But after the first session, I felt so much better about everything. All the points she said made so much sense. I was happy to be in the sessions because she made me feel right at home. For the first time in months, I was able to feel like myself, and didn't have to worry about a thing. We were laughing at so many things that I forgot all the bad things around me. Kathleen is such a lovely girl to be around and I wish that everyone knew her and love her as much as I do. Kathleen has taught me so much about the illness and also taught me techniques on how to control my symptoms and prevent them from returning. Not only is reverse therapy a tool to have until you get better, it is something you can carry with you for the rest of your life, and you don't even need a pocket to carry it in. Thank you so much Kathleen, for helping me to get my life back on track. And if I win an Oscar in the near future, I will be mentioning the wonderfulness that is you, as one of the special people in my life to thank, because you have shown me the path back to my profession.
Louise Pyper, Broughty Ferry Clinic, November 2010.
In January 2009, I become very ill with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I remember sitting awake all night and in the morning finding it hard to move or even get up. I was always wondering how all my friends were doing at school and wondering if I was even going to manage to go back to school. Life was absolutely miserable for me.
However, in September 2009 my cousin told me about ‘Reverse Therapy’ and how it helped her when she was going through the same thing. After browsing through the internet I found Kathleen and about 6 sessions later, I felt alive again. Kathleen is a kind, professional and very loveable person; she was very easy to speak to. In fact I always enjoyed seeing her because she always made me laugh and made me feel like myself when I was in the room with her.
Now at the age of 18 I feel full of energy and well balanced. I’m currently at college doing a course called ‘Creative Industries Television’ and I couldn’t be happier! Kathleen has taught me so much and that to be awake is to be alive. I recommend her to anyone who is sick and tired of being sick and tired like I was. I don’t know how I will be able to thank her, but I think thank you is the best words I can use for just now...maybe I will buy her a cup of coffee as well sometime.
Hannah White, Aberdeen Clinic, September 2010.
My 70th birthday present last month was a trip to the Maldives for 10 days (with 3 kids under 4 years old!) It was great and I did my first proper snorkel out on a reef and it was magical. So many, many times I think of you and the life you gave back to me. Also the laughs we had in the process! We cycled (tricycled) around the island. It was quite physical, and non stop but it felt so relaxed and I was so happy to be part of it all – oh what joy to be M.E free! I can never thank you enough!
Ann L. Edinburgh Clinic, December 2009.
I’m convinced that it’s only because I was fortunate enough to have therapeutic support sessions with Kathleen Haden at the right time for me, that I am still operating as a senior leader in my organisation.
I’m a senior manager with a Scottish Council, my organisation is like any other, it only keeps working and delivering its purpose because of the people who work in it. And it only keeps on doing that well when the people, and especially the key people, are functioning well and focused positively on their jobs.
We have a lot of staff doing a wide range of jobs. Leadership in any organisation is hard work, demanding and with the constant demand for change accompanied by an ever tighter economic situation it can sometimes challenge even the most able and robust personalities. When those challenges are complicated by traumatic or complex personal situations, it can become completely overwhelming. Far too easily things can get out of hand, ineffective performance makes problems worse, careers get sidetracked, relationships at home and at work deteriorate, the organisation and customers suffer.
That’s what was happening to me at the start of this year, I’m one of the senior corporate management team, was leading a very large change management programme. We had just got to the most significant point in implementation and I also went through a split with my wife in very acrimonious and traumatic circumstances. Direct colleagues were sympathetic and helpful enough but that in many ways just made dealing effectively with my issues worse.
I firmly believe that it was only through being fortunate enough to access the external, expert and independent advice and therapy provided by Kathleen Haden (Kettles) that enabled me to cope, and to recover, while continuing to perform effectively and successfully in my role at work.
Her professional approach and the impartial confidential service she provided addressed my stress and anxiety quickly and effectively. She introduced me to a range of coping strategies and ensured that I dealt with the challenges I was facing in a managed and competent fashion while still performing effectively in my role.
Kathleen has been successfully involved in a range of the other most complex and sensitive personal performance issues affecting management in my organisation with consistently impressive results. I would not hesitate to recommend her services to you.
JS. Corporate Client 2009
From the first time I read about Reverse Therapy I was impressed with it and felt that it was something I wanted to try. I found the process to be enlightening, I am very pleased to be significantly improved and excited for my future. Kathleen was friendly and easy to talk to from day one. She made Reverse Therapy seem simple and easily achievable. I, my fiance, family and friends are so pleased I went through this process. I intend to use it for life and would recommend it in an instant to anyone. Thank you!
KB. Scottish Clinic 2007
Already, my Chronic Fatigue which I had for three and a half years seems like a distant bad dream. I cannot believe how easy it was in the end to free myself once Kathleen had explained to me how to overcome it. All the things I had never expected to be able to do again such as going abroad for a hoilday (the journey would have been too exhausting never mind the usual holiday activities as I am not one for lounging by the pool) - I can now do without a moment's thought.
TR. London Clinic 2007